Who are children of God?
1 John 3:8-10 The one who practices sin is of the devil, because the devil has been sinning from the very start. This is why the Son of God was revealed, to destroy the works of the devil. Anyone born of God refuses to practice sin, because God’s seed abides in him; he cannot go on sinning, because he has been born of God. By this the children of God and the children of the devil can be distinguished: Anyone who does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is anyone who does not love his brother..
What is NOT a reason for marriage to a child of God?
- Marriage is not a substitute for deliverance in the area of sexual immorality 1 Cor 7: 1-16. Please read verse 17 clearly. Get delivered from sexual sin if you are burning with passion for sex because it will not go away after getting married. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
- Marriage is not a substitute for God’s love and for that matter joy , Nehemiah 8:10
- Marriage is not a way to bring an unbeliever to God . It may not work when you try to be a missionary by marrying an unbeliever . 2 Corinthians 6:14
- Marriage is not another trophy or attainment in life or a show casing forum but a God’s team with a mission. Gen 1:27
- A wife or husband is not from man, but from God who understands the heart of men Genesis 2:18
- Marriage is not a man’s idea. It’s God’s . You should not entertain pressure from other people to marry, Proverbs 18:22
- To marry is not a duty or an obligation but an addition to your purpose in life,Proverbs 18:22. Marriage may come to you as a duty or an obligation from your social environment
- You don’t marry so that you can gain faithfulness. Faithfulness is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23
- You don’t marry for riches. The package may bind your soul to evil. 2 Chronicles 18:1
- You don’t marry so that you can get a source of love. You need to draw your love from God. If you do that in marriage it’s not enough and obviously leads to idolatry (worshipping your spouse) and can be a source of many sorrows . Remember that your spouse is not your God and is a fallen human just like you. No wonder there so many broken hearts in our world today all bruised in action in pursuit of love. John 4:4-26 gives us a story of a woman who had gone to draw water from Jacob’s well. She had been through several marriages seeking affection and love but never got it. Jesus tried as much as possible to explain how she can draw love and affection from a well that doesn’t dry up. Just like any one of us, she was not getting it. All of a sudden she became religious! She started telling Jesus about some useless believe of how her ancestors worshipped God in the mountains!
What is marriage as a child of God?
- Marriage is God’s idea , Genesis 2:18. By His special grace some believers may never marry 1 Corinthians 7:8
- Marriage is between a man and a woman, Lev. 18:22
- Marriage unites two people (man and woman) into one flesh, Mark 10:8
- Marriage is a servant-hood to each other, Genesis 2:18, 1 Corinthians 7: 1- 6
- Finding a wife or a husband is God’s duty not yours , your friends’ or your parents’. Proverbs 19:14
- Marriage is leaving and cleaving to your spouse, extended family is not part of it. Ephesians 5:31
- Marriage is the most sacred relationship between a man and a woman and should not be defiled by a sexual sin. Hebrews 13:4
- Marriage is a continuation of God’s creation of humans on earth, so if you can, multiply. Genesis 1:28
- Marriage is supposed to be a happy union between a man and a woman who are on mutual agreement on matters of faith , Ecclesiastes 9:9, Proverbs 12:4
- To marry or not to marry are both a blessing and a gift, so don’t be pressured to marry. 1 Corinthians 7: 7
- In marriage, our goal is to give love and affection other than to get love and affection from our spouses . Our spouses respond by submitting to our love. If we have a perennial loneliness within our hearts, it means that we can’t offer love to anyone including our spouses. This is the worst time to look for a relationship if you are single. If you are married you may easily fall into an affair without much guilt because something deep inside of you is blaming your spouse for the loneliness. So the best thing to do is to go to God and let God fill us with His love . Sometimes this is a sign that we need to repent some hidden sins and be reconciled with God. Ephesians 5:19-21, Song of Solomon 4:10, 7:10
Dangers of a Marriage that is not God’s will and it’s outside the general bibilical guide on marriages
God’s will include; if to marry or not, who to marry and when to marry the person
- Suffering the Consequences of Disobedience. Right from Adam, Moses & Aaron, Soul, David and the whole Israel suffered for disobeying God. Disobedience is a form of rebellion and God hates rebellion. 1 Samuel 15:23-24
- Collecting Curses (from impure spirits, generational curses, un-confessed sins, wilful sins, idolatry, etc). If you marry someone that God has not ordained to be your spouse, or your spouse at that period and time, you risk marrying someone who could be an unbeliever or not delivered or a vessel of satanic attacks due to curses that have not been dealt with and still flowing freely in their family lineage. These are inherited curses. Number 31:17-18 God knew that there will be a spiritual havoc if the Israeli men married women from pagan religions who had already slept with men. Sex is one of the tools the devil uses to pass demons from one person to another. Israelis were asked to spare the virgins. I have witnessed persons who didn’t have personal struggles with sins start doing so and continue doing so unable to stop after a brief sexual relationship with someone. They get a permanent resident, like a spirit of sexual lust, a disease causing Spirit that kills the body immunity and even mental illnesses. Impure spirits are passed on in an intimate relationship. One can easily stop the works of the flesh but evils spirits living in us can’t be stopped unless they are cast out.
- Losing Your Calling. I have seen godly men and women go back to heathen lifestyles, lose their calling, churches splitting, ministries crashing after a marriage. Its only God that knows the heart of the person we are are to marry. Don’t cave in to pressure, deceived by beauty or driven by evil passions. Solomon and David are good examples of persons that went astray after marrying outside of God’s will.
- Losing Your Identity. Men have also lost identity and become paper husbands with no Godly authority over their family. Men who marry women who are hosts of anti-Christ spirits like the Jezebel spirit , may find it hard to carry their God ordained spiritual authority in families and churches.The main medium of operation by this antichrist spirit is witchcraft and divination. This spirit counterfeits the Holy Spirit and decernment making the immediate spiritual environment toxic, husbands and close family members feel powerless and therefore cave in to manipulation. 1Kings 19. This spirit strips up the authority from the man and uses it for its own selfish needs. The spirit constantly bombards the man with witchcraft. These are the kind of men you see walking around with stooped shoulders. They’ve been reduced to a wet chook. Unfortunately, the nature of a male makes them a no match to witches. This I will say could be the biggest danger of marriages in in the body of Christ today. The presence and the influence of this spirit is underrated. Men who have grown up under the influence of this spirt are more likely to marry a woman hosting this spirit. They are conditioned to it and their conscious and unconscious mind take it as normal.
- Facing Daily Sorrows of Unfaithfulness. Faithfulness is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. Galatians 5:22-23. If your spouse is operating under any other spirit then you don’t expect them to be faithful to you or for that matter to anybody. The knowledge that your spouse cheats on you at will and you can’t prove it or if you can, others can’t or if all can prove it you can’t lift a finger because you are under a form of manipulation, gives a hollow feeling of hopelessness. Witchcraft could be a simple act of manipulation of someone’s else will or use of occult to confuse people and stop them from reasoning (It works best against persons that don’t believe in it). When Paul in Galatians 3:1 said, “You foolish Galatians! Who has bewitched you?” he was serious about the bewitching part and it was not a joke. It happens today to whole congregations , family units or even nations operating under a cloud of deception Acts 8: 9Now for some time a man named Simon had practiced sorcery in the city and amazed all the people of Samaria. He boasted that he was someone great, 10and all the people, both high and low, gave him their attention and exclaimed, “This man is rightly called the Great Power of God.” 11They followed him because he had amazed them for a long time with his sorcery.
- Losing your clarity in making decisions: Just like the foolish Galatians who didn’t know who bewitched them, you may end up struggling with clarity, if bombarded with manipulation and witchcraft. Sound mind comes from the Holy Spirit but if your environment does not support sincere worship of the living God, the Holy Spirit is absent and what you get is a constant confusion and spiritual attack. Lack of peace and sleep is a good example of spiritual attacks from within a person. Making wrong decisions is another. If you have a trail of wrong decision making, watch out you could be under a witchcraft attack. The Spirit of God drives out worry and gives us clarity from a sound mind. A sound mind and lack of fear brings peace and so you get to sleep. 2 timothy 1: 7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.