Many people will agree with me that there are several forces inside their bodies that beg them to engage in casual intimacies. They may find themselves daydreaming with pleasures of the flesh! They are unable to practice self-control or they have constant burning with need for a “romance” (you could call it lust) with a visually desirable person.
1 Corinthians 7:9 (NLT) But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.
Though taken as normal like a need for food, sexual lust may be something beyond the flesh. If you can’t use your mind to stop it, then it’s demonic.
If you reach such a level of lust for sex, then you will still be unfaithful after marriage! You will continue to obey the whims of your needy flesh and reap along the way a heap of curses over your life and marriage! These curses are manifested (among others) as catching curable or incurable diseases, unhappiness in your marriage, lack of reassuring peace, being grumpy or being constantly depressed. Remember that these curses can’t go away unless you get delivered!
If you don’t have a wife or a husband, please save yourself a life of sorrows by getting delivered first before you seek marriage! Then you will be able to attract a suitable person as a life partner! Remember that a suitable person to you may not necessarily be the one everybody praises or approves. God looks at the heart. Let Him lead you to your soulmate!
Once you find your soulmate, get married. Don’t dilly-dally for too long! Don’t try to impress any human! The effort is not worth it!
The act of marriage is simple, yet too far and not easily achievable. This is not because God made it this way, no, but humans have created the barrier. The most common across all communities is the over-hyped traditions leading to the marriage status.
According to my experience, it is a subtle way of controlling the couple involved. It can also be a source of money and material gain by those controlling the process. Sometimes its just another forum for family show off or another type of personal edification!
Marriage “approval process” has been institutionalized by both the community and by the government as a payable service.
The losers in this case, are the people who want to get peacefully married to each other. Unless they learn the truth, they are caught up in these unnecessary cycle of warped human traditions.
John 8:32 “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” NIV
Humans who want to marry are frustrated by heavy burdens put on their shoulder to complicate and confuse the simple act of getting married!
Jesus said in Matthew 11:30 “For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” NIV
They are made to wait and wait. Meanwhile, they engage in random sex with other people. The community ignores this, by turning a blind eye to the whole drama. Then after the community timetable is approved, everybody shows up to ” celebrate” the unfaithful couple. They now expect the vows and the presence of the priest to make this couple’s marriage holy or work!
Marriage is not made holy by a ceremony or by the priest officiating it, but by the couple for being faithful and committed to each other! It should be the choice of the couple to wait, plan when to marry and who to involve. Everybody else is a stranger in that relationship! The commitment moment can be between the two persons involved or it could be done according to what the immediate cultural environment of the day dictates. Remember that this is optional and has no spiritual value.
Marriage is supposed to be simple, where a woman and a man comes together and commits to each other. It doesn’t need a priest or a bishop to officiate. Get me well, I don’t mean that marriage is not a serious thing, no, it’s as serious as birth and death.
The commitment is big and needs divine guidance but the act of attaining marriage status between two people is simple, it’s just having sex. We easily get spiritually married to other people without knowing because the real and binding definition of marriage has been removed from what it is, a sexual encounter. People need to be careful not to think of or have sex with anyone in their lives. If they are single, to wait until they meet that one person they will live with for the rest of their lives.
What is important is the fact that you should have your own wife or husband?
1 Corinthians 7:2. …each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband (ESV). Meaning that there are no third parties allowed in the union, just the two of you till death! So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mathew 19:6 NIV
What is marriage? Two bodies become a couple in the spiritual world when they have sex with or without a commitment to each other. All of us should be aware that a single sexual encounter with another human makes that person your wife or husband.
Therefore, random sex makes you have ungodly spiritual ties to several people and this should never happen. That’s why the practice is sin and an abomination! It is a curse to a human body (1 Corinthians 6:18 (NIV) Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body). Signs of these curses come as sexually transmitted infections, premature ageing and death of the body!
We find the clues on what signs-up a marriage in the following scriptures. This could be accidental or a hidden act but it qualifies you as married.
1 Corinthians 6:16 (NIV) Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”
What if the two people have sex and don’t start living together as husband and wife? Then it becomes a sin or sexual immorality or fornication depending on their current marital status. When you sleep with someone, that person becomes your wife or husband. If you don’t accept that then you are under sin!
The spiritual act of marriage process is quoted exactly the same way in several scriptures. Before you fool around, you should be ready to live with the person as married couple. Ephesians 5:31 , Genesis 2:24, Mathew 19:5
… a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh…
These and others are some of the reasons sexual immorality is common among the young. Marriage has been made as a high bar to achieve. So they give up on it and instead sleep with the easiest person near them!
1 Corinthians 7:2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. NIV
If marriage was left as easy as it is in the bible then it will be easy to get your own wife and husband. Otherwise to get a wife or husband, the preparation is mind boggling. The number of people you need to involve is unbelievable. The pastors, the community, relatives, friends and enemies want to have a say in it. All for the purposes of control. It sounds ridiculous if you think about it.
It’s also laughable that you ought to get community consent or advice from persons who are themselves fornicators, sexually immoral or those that are sold to the popular appeal of traditional religious demagogues!
Lets not complicate the act of marriage. If you wish to get married, go ahead and do it, commit to each other before God. It could be in your house, in church, on the road side, in a restaurant or anywhere you are! Since you are surrounded by a number of witnesses in the spiritual world, you should do it in sincerity and truth. In an ideal case, human witnesses at your commitment are not necessary unless for the purposes of the government paperwork.
1 Corinthians 7:9(NIV) …for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Let’s conclude with the following marriage myths.
1. A priest is needed to perform a marriage ceremony. This is purely a religious practice that has no spiritual support or value. It’s a way of hoodwinking onlookers into believing that the relationship was holy or the persons involved practice holiness!
2. A set of marriage vows is what seals a marriage. Marriage vows are good and should come before the marriage is sealed. What seals a marriage is the sexual act not the vows.
3. There must be a wedding ceremony. Partying is not sin, but it has no spiritual meaning and can be a waste of time.
4. You need to follow the traditions of your people. Human traditions were created by man to control others. Things like gifts and dowry are for monetary gain! You can use traditional ceremony for public commitment but this is completely irrelevant and a waste of time!
5. You can have a sexual relationship with another person while still claiming that the person is not your husband or wife. This is a deception and is an act of sexual immorality. You should never sleep with anyone if you don’t want to acknowledge that you are practically married to that person.
[Article Author: Joseph GM]