Humans love interacting with other humans. I am one of them. I can talk and talk when given a chance to interact.
I have many times gone home unhappy after attending a social gathering, hurting from words spoken by others to deliberately hurt my feelings. My wife once told me to stop these unnecessary social visits that have no agendas. I tried it and it surprisingly worked!
I later discovered that I was being hurt by what was coming out of people’s personalities. Whatever that was in there, was not right. I was getting myself yoked with other minds that were not of my mindset. No wonder the bible says in 2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked… Some of the pain lasted for days and my wife had to spent lots of time counselling me. The moment the truth hit me about the evil in people’s personalities, I stopped all unnecessary interactions. If by any chance I have to do it, I pray and seek God about it.
When you read the scriptures, you will discover some puzzling truth about fruits in people’s personalities.
I learned that we struggle to relate to other people due to the bad fruits found in their personality. Before this, I always wondered why people behave the way they do. Jesus said in Matthew 7:16 (NASB) You will know them by their fruits...
I now use personality fruits as my radar before I let in anyone into my personal space. I have now come to appreciate the fact that the fruits are manifested for you so that you can decide how you wish to relate with that person.
Personality fruit literally jump out of people as they respond to their social environment. You only need to observe quietly. Life has enough triggers to expose any pretense. Be patient and give yourself time. People’s true colors will always emerge.
The biggest danger is to ignore or tolerate persons with bad fruits.
Personality fruits in humans are found in Galatians 5:19-24. The are divided into two categories, the pleasant and the unpleasant fruits.
The unpleasant fruits are found in those still living under the control of the flesh (self) : sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures,idolatry and witchcraft; hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division,envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other .
The pleasant fruits are found in those living under the guidance of the Holy Spirit; love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,gentleness, and self-control.
Tip: Your flesh (self) cannot yield to the Holy Spirit if there are still unclean spirits living in you which are actually the source of the unpleasant fruits. Don’t struggle to suppress the unpleasant fruits, deal with the source by getting delivered from these evil characters living in you and giving you the bad fruits.