Read Galatians 5 carefully when you have time.
We struggle to relate to people due to their personality. We wonder why people behave the way they do. Jesus said in Matthew 7:16 You will know them by their fruits.
We should use personality fruits as our radar before we get hurt. These fruits are manifested so that you can decide how you want to relate with that person.
The fruits jump out of people’s personality as they respond to their social environment.
You only need to observe quietly. Life has enough triggers to expose any pretense. Be patient and give yourself time. People’s true colors will always emerge. The biggest danger is to ignore them or tolerate them.
Personality fruits one; Those still living under the control of the flesh : sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures,idolatry and witchcraft; hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division,envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other .
Personality fruits two; Those living under the working of the Holy Spirit; love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,gentleness, and self-control.