Read Galatians 5 carefully when you have time.
We struggle to relate to people due to their personality. We wonder why people behave the way they do. Jesus said in Matthew 7:16 (NASB) You will know them by their fruits...
We should use personality fruits as our radar before we get hurt. These fruits are manifested for you so that you can decide how you wish to relate with that person.
The fruits jump out of people’s personality as they respond to their social environment.
You only need to observe quietly. Life has enough triggers to expose any pretense. Be patient and give yourself time. People’s true colors will always emerge. The biggest danger is to ignore them or tolerate them.
Personality fruits in humans are found in Galatians 5:19-24. The are divided into two categories, the pleasant and the unpleasant fruits.
The unpleasant fruits are found in those still living under the control of the flesh (self) : sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures,idolatry and witchcraft; hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division,envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other .
The pleasant fruits are found in those living under the guidance of the Holy Spirit; love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,gentleness, and self-control.
Tip: Your flesh (self) cannot yield to the Holy Spirit if there are still unclean spirits living in you which are actually the source of the unpleasant fruits. Don’t struggle to suppress the unpleasant fruits, deal with the source by getting delivered from these evil characters living in you and giving you the bad fruits.